Every life, no matter how short, endures as long as it is remembered.

That Once Occupied Space

The vacant chair at the table is not empty, nor is the vacant space around the Christmas Tree, the omission in family pictures, the date on the calendar that was always marked as a birthday. Those spaces are filled with memories, longing, and perhaps even regret. Most of all, however, they are filled with love. There is comfort because the space will always be there, with love, delightful memories, and great appreciation for the short life that was once in those spaces.
The title of this blog is the name of an old song that was written at the beginning of the Civil War. The Vacant Chair, written by George F. Root in 1861 can be found on the website "Civil War Talk."

We shall meet but we shall miss him. — There will be one vacant chair. — We shall linger to caress him —While we breathe our ev'ning prayer.
When one year ago we gathered, — Joy was in his mild blue eye. — Now the golden cord is severed, — And our hopes in ruin lie.
CHORUS:
We shall meet, but we shall miss him. — There will be one vacant chair. — We shall linger to caress him — While we breathe our ev'ning prayer.

Verses two and three are also included on the site listed above, and they refer to the death of a young man on the battle field. You can search YouTube to find recordings of the song with its common melody. The most clearly and beautifully simple version is this Tennessee Ernie Ford rendition.

Monday, January 25, 2016

The Turtle

When a person dies at the end of a long life, we tend to look at that life as a whole. We put our own appraisal of that life's value based upon the distance of our view, or how well we knew the deceased.
When a child dies, the parents and other members of the family cannot comprehend that child's life as a whole because it did not include a future. Yet the life had value, and as time goes by, we realize that the value of a child's life is the sum of all of its moments. Perhaps that is the value of everyone's life, young or old. The following is a moment in another kind of life.

At the bridge repair with a stoplight, a large pickup was parked with the front end slanted just over the center line.  The stoplight was necessary because the bridge was being repaired one lane at a time. The pickup and my car would have to move to the left lane to cross the bridge when the light turned green. I stopped quite a way back as the light was red. Oncoming cars had to move to the edge of the road to get around the pickup that was so close to their own lane of traffic. The light turned green, but the pickup didn't move. I stayed where I was, wondering if there was an accident. Just as the last oncoming car passed, the pickup moved in a large arc so that both of its left wheels were on the center line, but moved no further when the light turned green. Then I saw the biggest turtle I've seen "in these parts," nearly as big as my tire, although agreeably a Prius tire isn't all that big. The pickup moved slowly forward and stopped, and I thought the driver finally determined the turtle to be dead. "Big T" was flat to the road, and his head, feet and tail were out of his shell. I pulled up close to the pickup, but near the side of the road. The car drove up behind me, and seeing the turtle, stopped. As I looked down at the turtle, I saw no gore, and pulled up so that the turtle was a few feet behind my car. The car immediately behind me was about 2 lengths away. The light turned green, the pickup stayed, and my stopped car went to energy mode, running silent on electric. That was when the turtle became wild and crazy (for a turtle). His head stretched out, he rose on his feet and (very slowly) finished crossing the road between my car and the car behind me. After another green light, then red, then green, the pickup slowly pulled ahead across the bridge and I followed, watching the rear-view mirror. The turtle disappeared into the roadside weeds, having lived another day.

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